Love your essays, can you share themes for the next ones? big hug!
I had one on Mischa and Hannibal, exploring love for a real person vs love for an imago; had one analyzing how Jack and Bella’s plot was a parallel to Hannigram; one about Abigail and Hobbs and how they were also parallels to Hannigram, but I’m hesitant to share more. I might even abandon this blog.
I came here under the mistaken impression that this was a safe space to express my thoughts, not an open invitation for debate. My intention was never to solicit opinions; I’m simply sharing musings, yet some people assume that the mere act of putting a thought into the world means it’s up for discussion. That’s not always the case.
Even if I were to block comments or reblogs, I know there would still be those who screenshot, tag me, send asks determined to insert themselves where they were never invited. It’s fascinating, really, this belief that every thought someone shares must be subjected to public agreement or disagreement, as if validation were the natural endpoint of expression. If I don’t agree with something, I move on. But there’s a particular breed of online discourse, especially among younger people, that operates under the assumption that they are entitled, obligated even, to weigh in, to declare, “I don’t agree 100%” or “Actually, I’m not sure I agree.” And? No one asked. The entitlement is baffling.
This isn’t a political manifesto, nor some grand ideological battleground. It’s a blog about a TV show. The sheer level of energy some people expend dissecting and debating trivial thoughts as if they were world-shattering issues is exhausting. I have a life. This is a hobby. I do not have the patience or inclination to entertain teenagers who mistake their own opinions for decrees and believe they must broadcast every thought they have, relevant or not. It drains the joy out of everything.
I understand that many people here struggle with mental health issues, but this goes beyond that, this is a pathological need to engage in unnecessary, uninvited confrontation. It’s not insightful. It’s not constructive. It’s simply tedious. And the classic “You can’t take criticism” response…Where did I ever ask for criticism? What compels someone to believe they’re entitled to critique thoughts that were never directed at them in the first place?
If you’re so deeply invested in social issues, if you see yourself as some moral authority, then go do something meaningful. But wasting your time policing strangers on the internet over inconsequential musings? That’s not activism. That’s not righteousness. It’s just performative self-importance.
The level of rudeness I’ve encountered over a post that was primarily an analysis of Hannigram, hundreds of words on why their relationship could be sexual in canon, because of one small paragraph mentioning ace people’s projections is astonishing. That single mention was enough to derail the entire discussion, proving my point exactly: the projection is so relentless that they ignored the actual post and made it about themselves. The title wasn’t “Ace People Project onto Characters”…the post wasn’t even about them. Yet, the response was an outpouring of hostility, devoid of valid points or genuine critique, just raw projection, ignorance, and misplaced outrage.
What’s truly ironic is that in their attempt to refute my claim, they confirmed it. They didn’t just project onto characters, they projected onto me for simply pointing out a pattern they don’t want to acknowledge. And as I said in the post, if it doesn’t apply to you, why take it personally? Just move on. But of course, the ones who responded with the most vitriol, the most unhinged reactions, are the ones with the deepest unresolved issues.
I made a passing comment on this because I knew the conversation would inevitably attract the same tired arguments: “Sex isn’t everything,” “Sex is inferior,” “They don’t need sex to love each other.” Which, sure, in some contexts, that’s a valid perspective. But it’s not a universal truth, it’s a subjective view. The post wasn’t even about whether sex is superior or inferior. I simply addressed a recurring comment about Hannigram that, 99% of the time, comes from ace people who struggle to separate their own identity from fictional characters, assuming that everyone must think and feel as they do.
Nowhere in that post did I decree some grand personal stance on asexuality. Nowhere did I say anything about ace people beyond the observation that they project. And that is not an opinion, it’s an observable fact, reinforced by the sheer volume of hostile responses proving the exact behavior I described. Instead of engaging with what was actually written, they twisted my words into something that suited their own insecurities.
If I have to include endless disclaimers, write paragraph after paragraph of over-explanation just to account for people who either lack the intelligence or the willingness to read in good faith, then I’m done. It’s exhausting. This entire environment has become a bizarre morality play, where actual atrocities in the world are ignored in favor of performative outrage over trivial blog posts.
News flash: spitting out self-righteous nonsense on a blog about a TV show does not make you intelligent, morally superior, or part of some grand discourse. You’re not as smart as you think you are. And this…this very attitude, is why everyone is miserable. You claim there’s a loneliness epidemic, yet you make it impossible to have genuine connections when every interaction feels like walking on eggshells, all because of a fundamental inability to interpret words and the fact that you think everyone is always against you.
If I choose to stay is only so those ignorant people don’t get what they wanted: to drive people who don’t bend to their every opinion away.
And no, I’m not someone who expects everyone to agree with me. But that’s not even the point, what I share isn’t about being agreeable or disagreeable in the first place. There’s a fundamental rule in fanfiction: you never criticize a fic directly to the writer. Fanfiction is something people create out of love, as a hobby, or as a therapeutic escape. It’s free fan work, nobody is entitled to critique it. You can have your opinions, discuss them privately, or share them in spaces where they aren’t directed at the author. But to go out of your way to comment on their account with unsolicited negativity? What is wrong with you?
If your goal was to look smart or superior by reblogging with unhinged rudeness, devoid of actual reasoning or argument, you failed. Miserably. You look foolish, childish, and desperate for attention, making a spectacle out of something no one cares.
Plenty of people disagree with my posts, and that’s fine. But they have basic common sense, they don’t flood my replies or reblogs with absurd, aggressive nonsense. Everyone has the right to their own opinion, sure. But I also have the right to reject opinions that are unnecessary, unproductive, and add nothing of value. If your response doesn’t change the conversation, doesn’t contribute meaningfully, doesn’t do anything except prove my point while being blatantly rude, then why should I entertain it? I have no obligation to accept or engage with hostility from strangers who can’t even read properly.