yes one of the theses of the unwanted guest is that love changes you. and that’s nice and beautiful, but we could go another way and say it’s that love and freedom don’t coexist. you can be completely alone, completely free to do whatever you want and be your own immutable self, but you can’t have love that way. love is compromise. love restricts. Ianthe is the perfect example of that. she thinks she’s perfectly herself, perfectly Ianthe, but her freedom and individuality is being slowly eroded by her close contact with Naberius’ soul, as well as her desperation to get Coronabeth back. as Tamsyn said, you have not yet begun to see the horrors of love. and I think I finally have an idea of what she meant by that now.