foundational griddlehark dynamic is them treating each other not as people but as swords to fall on or lashes to bear. Harrow uses Gideon as her personal instrument of penance never paying mind to if Gideon would want that outside of Harrow’s own self flagellatory fantasies. Gideon can only conceptualize Harrow’s feelings for her via her own desire-to-be-used and inability to see herself as having any inherent value outside of that use, neither of which is actually rooted in what Harrow truly feels. neither of them even sees herself as a real person and by consequence they don’t know how to consider each other as fully formed people who have their own thoughts seperate from what they project outwards onto the other. send post.