griddlehark has the perfect kind of matching neuroses for each other specifically because harrow will be like “shut the fuck up” and gideon will interpret that as “attracting her wrath is the most reliable way to ensure her attention and therefore my continued sense of self”, wheras gideon will be like “die bitch” and harrow will interpret that as “if god wills it she will follow through, if not i must simply try harder”