Hey gang, Mod T here. It’s National Coming Out Day, a day when I use the influence and reach of this blog for something a bit more constructive. The past couple years I’ve made a post about how I’m asexual and what that entails. I’m 100% out about everything that I am now so I have nothing to come out about this year so I thought I’d just give some advice.
If you’re struggling with trying to figure out your identity, be it sexual, romantic, gender or what have you. It’s perfectly okay to identify as something even if you’re not entirely sure that you are it and it’s okay to change a label that you were once really confident in. The journey to discovering yourself is different for everyone. For some people it’s short: “hmm, I think I like these kinds of people, I must be gay” boom done, that’s it, they don’t question it again, and that’s fine. For others they’ll take a long time and go through several identities before finding one that fits right. Me for example, before I figured out I was asexual at one point or another I thought I was: straight, bi, ace, bi, demi, gay, pan, demi, pan again and finally ace but only because I was so tired of debating with myself whether I was or not that I decided “this is what I’m gonna identify as and if I find something later on that fits me better I can always change it”. And that’s perfectly fine.
Everyone’s path is unique to them. Don’t feel discouraged if takes you longer to figure out who you are and there’s no pressure to come out every time you think you figured yourself out. Good luck to those of you still struggling, I hope I could help at least a little bit.