so based off of your description about Maids does that mean that they are like, oppressed by their aspect? Like for example a Maid of Doom would be oppressed by doom and have a feeling of existential dread but have to learn to balance out their Doom and not discard it completely

It depends and it’s extremely personal. For example, Aradia has run out of Time. By the time she appears in the story, she’s already Dead, and once she Ascends and becomes happier, she starts spending her Time on herself. Similarly, Jane is basically being raised to be Condy’s Heiress, the fact she’s the Heiress to a Supercompany and that Condy is an Asshole leave her facing daily Death Threats and Assassination Attempts, and her life is further stolen by Condy when she actually gets Mind-Controlled. Even before that, the whole interaction with Jake removes her Agency to do what she wanted- Tell him she fancied him, and ended up shoving her in an unhealthy spot regarding his relationship with Dirk. Porrim, similarly, struggled with the role she was assigned, of Motherhood, Space-bound to being a Caretaker to the Mother Grub. So she ran away and became a badass feminist fighting for the rights of Beforan and Alternian Women. This is when she tells us that, while she found Oppression in her Caste and her Aspect, that doesn’t mean rejecting it outright was the best course of action, either. There’s a balance, and once Free from that which oppresses you, you can voluntarily do it, for yourself, because you want to, not because someone else tells you to. This arc is mirrored by all three Maids and I think it’s a pretty important Life Lesson for those who struggle similarly to the Maids.