But isnt that what exactly happend to jade and john in homestuck i just dont umderstand how john changed wind/freedom for the cast also whats action and reaction is reaction just a simpler term for passive im so confused

Yes it is what happened, I meant that the same thing you were putting as Active for John and passive for Jade is actually the opposite EVEN if we take a simple Active/Passive meaning without going into Selfish/Selfless.

All I’m trying to say is John’s primary drive is mostly all about helping others (Retcon Quest, Poofing around the GO Session), even though he can occasionally still use his powers Actively (Defend himself, attack with wind), while Jade’s primary drive is about helping herself (Making Jadesprite to take Jack down without thinking about how Jadesprite would feel about this, and pretty much erasing Bec’s being in the process, her desire to be awake in the Session and help even though it risked becoming Grimbark again, just because she couldn’t deal with simply staying asleep and doing nothing), while still obviously doing things for her friends (I mean it’s Jade, she’s just a sweetheart in general).