I've been thinking about it and ... can we really blame Caliborn for how he is? Not trying to defend his actions or smth but Cherub biology made sure that he'd be a insufferable bastard

Cherubs ARE coded to have a Good and Evil duality, but look at Alt Calliope. She’s good, yeah but she’s super isolated and like… Alien to feelings entirely. An Evil Cherub is most likely, naturally, a chaotic and destructive being. In this way, when he becomes Lord English, he appears almost a bit more akin to what a normal Evil Cherub could be.

Caliborn, however, grows up, like Calliope, learning about Humans and interacting with others. Without this isolationist view, Calliope learns Romance and Love, something that she implies should be impossible for Cherubs. This theme is actually prevalent through Homestuck, with the Vantases having different takes on the Quadrants than is implied to be normal, with Dirk’s struggle to be good, and knowing he could easily just become a manipulative asshole, overcoming a way he seems to just be in general, in the same way Dave grapples with Toxic Masculinity. Homestuck is all about seeing that not even biology or soul truly encompasses who you are, that you Make yourself every moment you exist, that you shape who you are and can develop beyond what you may think you are.

So he cannot be excused, because he too goes against his Cherub ‘coding’ as evil, he actually shows to be interested in fluff and romance, even though he makes it creepy and weird- And that’s the difference. He’s just. Unapologetic about how awful, misogynistic, and fetishistic he is, he revels in it and flips you off if you even try to provide the slightest amount of criticism.