He calls himself nonrom sansplat, seems like he is even denying himself platonic relationships too. So he could be just saying those things and not really mean it. But I choose to believe he was. I think that's what hussie was trying to say. That Jake is aroace (or at the very least, aro) and doesn't know the word for it.

Yeah that’s exactly what he was implying, but indeed, he’s confused and scared and kind of in a pretty messed up place at that point? We know he makes up with Dirk afterwards, so whether he still embraced being aro, ace, both, or neither, well.

We’ll see in the Epilogue likely!