When Marae returns home after intense bloodthirsty chases and murders, he falls into a half-drowsy state for several hours; during this time, the Drukhari who are close enough to him can play dominance without fear of getting everything torn off. An overly abrupt attempt to grab him will make him wake up, and it will just be a good fight :DD Therefore, you need to crawl up to him slowly and carefully, and later you can be tougher.

(Second one is Zegris, one of Marae’s warlords :>)