Controversial post probably but I am so sick of seeing people who claim to be pro-para but specifically ‘call-out’ and talk shit on the 'big three’. If you are pro-para or you claim to be a safe space for paraphiles, yet you specifically exclude people who you think are gross and bad just for existing, without taking their actions into account, then you are NOT pro-para. And guess what! If you’re a perfect, wholesome, and moral objectophile or something, people who are anti-para will still say you’re secretly a fucking pedophile or whatever, because they don’t fucking care how good and nice your paraphilia is, it’s still a paraphilia and therefore wrong and evil.

Another thing that pisses me off so much is people saying they are anti-contact for specifically the big three.

It is so simple to just say you’re anti-contact for paraphilias with real life consequences rather than only saying the 'big three’. The only reason you feel the need to single out whatever the fuck you consider to be the monolithic 'big three’ Evil Paraphilias and the whole reason that the concept exists is because even in a social space where you claim to be accepting of people, there always has to be somebody to point at and say “Well, I’m not that bad, at least I’m not THAT guy!”.
There are plenty of paraphilias that would be just as harmful to act upon as those ones, but because those are the ones that normies constantly single out and hate on, it is easy to jump onto the bandwagon.

And you know what, I am aware that this is nitpicky and probably comes off as whiny and bitchy, but I really am sick of it. You sound like those fucking LGB without the T people. You do not have to support all paraphiles, but if you are disgusted by someone simply because their socially unacceptable attraction is not as morally acceptable as yours, then you cannot call yourself pro-para.