There’s a thing I see people do with Jonathan Sims (fictional) on occasion which both amuses and infuriates me. So:
- Canonically, Jon does not fuck. This is fully stated in the text. Yes, It’s as gossip about him, but it’s very reliable gossip.
- Because of this, a lot of people have gone “Ah-HA! Jon is Asexual! Wonderful, good representation” and this is not a massive leap to conclusions. If a character who has been in multiple romantic relationships does not fuck, then it’s not a massive leap to say “this character is asexual.”
- People learn about their asexual friends and role models and people of interest to them, and discover that some asexual people have sex for a bunch of different reasons, even if they do not experience sexual attraction. Cool! Wow learning is fun
- People combine 2 and 3 and go “In my canon-accurate fanwork, asexual Jon fucks nasty”
And like yes of course do whatever you want forever But! This is a character about whom all we know of him sexually is: romantic relationships with a man and a woman; does not fuck. And this really clear asexual representation gets kinda rolled into a weird reverso where if you say “but canonically, he does not fuck” you get a sort of “oh my god asexual people aren’t all celibate open your MIND” thing thrown at you and it just bugs me.
Anyway do what you want forever but that boy does not fuck. Probably because asexual! Possibly celibate due to his own secret reasons! Definitely not an asexual who gets about, there are like, three other characters who fit that better