2025-04-11 1:44:00 ¶ ● ⬈

sewaryka:

> i’m thinking some final thoughts on jonmartin as a ship and i have so many reflections

> relationship written so well the crowd cannot decide whether to call it realistic or toxic

you know how people would sometimes say love is actually more about choosing rather than feeling

and i think that is the case with them

in episode 190, laverne says this

it isn’t about them, of course, and i’m not even sure whether it was meant to be a parallel, maybe not, but to me it a bit is

they’re not a fairytale scenario. they don’t believe they’re meant to be together in a deeper, soulmateism sense (or at least martin doesn’t, but i think jon at least gets his point).

the whole ‘it’s a pure coincidence we even got together’ is very true. it probably wouldn’t happen if some things unfolded differently

and it gets me to how what connected them aren’t even feelings. of course, feelings are there, no doubt, they’ve fallen for each other - but feelings have their limit, are unstable, are changing, and are subjective, and ultimately, it isn’t enough to get you through a literal damn apocalypse (and a nasty, mind twisting kind of one too mind you), cause in these circumstances they get challenged on daily basis. you’ll get angry at each other, you’ll have to make painful choices, possibly hurt each other. they’re not enough to make a solid foundation, and you need a solid foundation in times like these

so you know what can get you through all that. what can make that foundation. free fucking human will. the ability to CHOOSE to put your trust in someone, the ability to CHOOSE that you’re sticking with them, BELIEVING in them

i think they’re both in a bit of a disbelief they got together after everything that went down and all their differences, but maintaining it is like a big fuck you to all the cruelty around them, and so choose to maintain that. and it’s also a lot of a 'as long as you choose me i’ll keep on choosing you too’ scenario too, that’s why they reassure each other so often, that hey, i still love you despite everything, so don’t give up on me

and it works, because they have a ton of trust in each other (that’s a whole another topic man their mutual trust is like the cery core of their relationship long before they even get together i’d say), so when one says i love you, the other believes them

so yeah it’s a bit of love in a feeling, hormones and brain chemistry sense, a bit of love in the. 'wherever you go i go’, choice sense, and a bit of love in the ultimate trust with whole life sense