Since the tma posting is back in full force among mutuals I will say that as much as I see the vision of interpreting avatarhood as primarily a system of who gets to inflict suffering vs receive it, the fact that many avatars on some level genuinely love and find beauty in their entity is still a very important aspect to me. Yes it’s about luck and cosmic unfairness, but it can also be about “you’ve found meaning and beauty in something most people find horrifying, but because of how different your perception is from others’ you can now no longer interact with them without hurting them”.