Hello there! I'm kinda new on here, and I just discovered this blog of yours.

So, I need some advice.

I want to be friends with someone right now who doesn't know I exist. What should I do?

I’m not a very competent agony Aunt. That said:

I would suggest spending more time considering why you want to be friends with someone who doesn’t know you yet. What need would that friendship fulfil? Is it possible to meet that need using what you already have to hand e.g. existing friends, family, communities?

Secondly could you accept their wholesale rejection? They are an independent entity and do not need to like you.

Lastly, if all the above scans then sure take your shot and say hi, explain why you would like to be friends with them but then let it go. They might respond, they might reject, they might reciprocate, they might ignore you wholesale but either way your limbo is done and you can redirect your energies to more personally beneficial outcomes.

You do you but personally I find lingering unhopefully is more damaging than quitting and finding your next win.

But what do I know? I make shit up for a living for the gratification of strangers. You should probably ask someone wiser than me.