July 2025

Hello! Apologies if this is a weird one, and I really hope that it doesn't feel overly intrusive.

Anyway, if I'm remembering correctly, you said today on the RQ anniversary stream that you use any pronouns, "feel free to change it up," at the start of the tabletop segment. Later on, someone did !alex in chat, though, and it said "(he/him)." Anyway, this isn't an issue or anything, but I wanted to ask for clarification, ig.

I've known some people who say "any pronouns," meaning they're alright with any, but usually default to one set, and I've met some who say "any pronouns," meaning they like to be called a wider variety and encourage people to mix them around. I think both are completely respectable, but if you're willing to say, do you have a preference between the two?

It's not my intention to stick a new label on you, or to force you to put one on yourself, let alone publicly, but I'm new to the streaming side of RQ, so just wanted to see if I had missed any context which you're comfortable with people knowing.

Apologies for the rough phrasing of this question, I hope it gets across what I mean to ask respectfully. I guess, like, would you consider yourself "he/him, but flexible," or more "any pronouns," or "all pronouns," or a whole different thing? And if it varies by context or moment, that's fine as well, but I get the feeling that you're aware of that. It's hard to categorize, but I feel like most people explain this stuff best in their own words, so while I want to give examples, like, I'm well aware that those aren't the only options and that identity is weird and often fluid.

Being concise isn't a strong suit of mine; in any case, thank you for all that you do. Ik I don't know you as a person, but from what I've seen, I do admire the changes you've created and fostered in the world, as well as your directed and written work. Would've loved to create a question about one of those, but honestly, I got anxious in the phrasing, so I'll leave it at asking about pronouns. Thanks again.

Congratulations and happy ten years!

Thanks for the kind words! Happy to clarify.

I default to he/him but I mostly don’t really care what people call me.

I say “any” so people don’t have to worry about misgendering me, not because I am desperate to be re-categorised or anything.

Hello Mr Quill,

as a person whose name gets butchered about 90 percent of the time I introduce myself to someone who doesn't (and every now and then even by people who do) speak my language:

have you ever come across a nickname, variant or pronunciation of your name you really do/don't like? Maybe had a good laugh about someone misreading/mispronouncing your last name?

Some examples I can think of would be Xander, Sascha, Aleksanteri, Alessandro or maybe Alexander pronounced in an American/German/Russian/... accent.

(Started listening to RQG a bit ago with no knowledge about TTRPG at all. Thank you guys for providing a gateway, which doesn't drown a beginner in question marks!)

I get called Alec a lot by fandoms which seems weird to me because in the UK at least that is a much rarer name.

I’ve had some pretty hurtful nicknames over the years I don’t intend to share here.

You won’t annoy be by mispronouncing my name unless you are being deliberately obtuse.

Hi, i saw your post about going to Empire in June - are you also going to the upcoming event (late July one)? (If you don't want to answer this that's totally fine and understandable btw)

I am!

The bar I run: Hadrian’s Hall is back once again under new management (still me, just with a fancy new insufferable character: Nero.)

I am even investing in some more seating and more fancy booze.

Full disclosure though I tried to make a den of iniquity and accidentally made a bougie wine bar so your mileage may vary!