you can write an advance statement that sets down your preferences, wishes, beliefs and values regarding your future care. it is not legally binding.
i talked last week about how important it is to make your end-of-life wishes known before it is necessary. i emphasized that you need to have difficult conversations with whoever you anticipate wil…
it’s not uncommon these days for families to be a blend of more than one marriage and involve stepchildren, sometimes from more than one birth mother. this can make end-of-life discussions more important before an actual illness sets in, and also it can make it more fraught with emotions and differences of opinion. this makes it important to take into account when we plan and discuss anything related to dying, death, and the aftermath it’s essential to take into account stepchildren and other relatives. “the end of life is often a nexus where stuff that has been building for decades comes out,” says brian carpenter, associate professor of psychology at washington university who studies family communication and decision making. “as we live longer and longer, relationships are becoming more complicated. families may be ‘blended’ more than once. that kind of situation compounds the number of people that are part of the end-of-life conversation,” carpenter adds. sara had watched her husband of 20 years, liam, decline over 6 months from kidney disease. liam’s adult children from his previous marriage did not disagree with the decision to put him in hospice and were respectful of the final months as their stepmom stayed by their father’s side each day. sara was grateful that there was no acrimony between the family members over the decision. the day after liam died, as sara was planning the funeral, and liam’s children became vocal and insisted that their birth mother give the eulogy at his funeral. despite years of an acrimonious relationship between liam and his divorced wife, the children felt that since their mom and liam had been high school sweethearts, she knew a side to him that sara did not and so could share more meaningful memories and stories to liam’s friends and relatives than anything sara could say. sara was stunned, hurt, and angry at what she considered to be an inconsiderate and inappropriate demand. end-of-life issues, whether it’s writing a will or planning the script for a funeral, are never easy. in a blended family, these processes tend to be even more fraught, but it is doable. “it’s never too late to talk about expectations and preferences though it’s much better to do so before people grow elderly or ill,” carpenter warns. we all need to focus on what we (and those we love) want and what we don’t want. in blended families, more than the usual number of conversations may be needed. he has observed that families that have been “blended” a long time often find it easier to overcome differences of opinion, especially if the adult children and their stepfamilies have amicable relations. carpenter suggests these five steps to begin productive conversations: be realistic about your family. a stepmother or stepbrother who tends to be argumentative or irritable in general won’t be any less difficult when you discuss end-of-life issues. plan beforehand how you might deal with such a person. if others in the family share your assessment, make a pact not to walk out of the meeting no matter how irked you become. or agree that you will ask the person or people interfering with the process to put any objections in writing. promise to go through them carefully (and do so), and schedule another family conversation as soon as you can. gather important documents. all family members, even people who are perfectly healthy, should have a living will and a durable power of attorney for health care and for finances. if there is no designated health care power of attorney (poa), state laws for surrogate decision-making focus on biological relations, and by default step-family are further down the line or even excluded. even if there is poa, many funeral homes often depend on the next-of-kin hierarchy. be clear about your desires. do you want your body to be cremated after you die or do you want to be buried? make sure your blended-family members know. if you choose to be cremated, be certain that you clarify in print what you want to be done with your ashes. another thing to consider in end-of-life planning is what type of service you would like to have. whether it’s a funeral or a memorial service, listing people you might want to speak at the service will stop any potential take-over by disagreeing step-relatives. revisit the conversation. end of life decisions are not set in stone. preferences can change as we get older. if you made end-of-life decisions when you were a healthy 50-year-old, you may have different ideas and feelings as a terminally-ill 80-year-old. the conversation and decisions should be about what you are comfortable with for yourself and not what anyone else expects of you. look beyond the death. carpenter stresses that end-of-life issues don’t end with the funeral. “something important to consider beforehand is what kind of relationships you want to have with your blended family members after the person who was the glue that stuck you together dies,” he says. for example, do you still want to have a relationship with your stepfather, especially if your mother married him later in her life and you hardly knew him? when the blending has happened when family members are all older, people often don’t want to continue relationships, carpenter observes. it’s perfectly normal, and don’t judge yourself if contact eventually diminishes to a yearly holiday card. bringing everyone together in a family discussion about end of life care can be difficult to wrangle in any family, not just in blended ones. so the question remains how can we even start a conversation about this? carpenter suggests that you jump on any opportunity, such as the illness of a neighbor, the death of a family friend or an event in the news. if families cannot agree, consider a mutually acceptable third-party mediator to help you resolve issues.
although it can be hard, planning for and making decisions about the end of life is important. doing it ahead of time can reduce stress for you and your family.
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the vast majority of patients make their end-of-life care wishes known to loved ones, and nearly 90% of the time those wishes were carried out according to kaiser permanente research published april 6, 2021, in the medical journal jama network open. “there is a common perception that people don’t often document or tell others about
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guide to late stage and end-of-life care. includes caregiving tips on providing comfort, dealing with grief, and making final decisions.
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with advance care planning, you can ensure that your end-of-life preferences for medical care are honored, even if you are unable to communicate them yourself. thinking about your wishes for end-of life care may not be easy, but it is important for you, your loved ones, and the healthcare professionals who care for you. making...
go wish card game—exploring end-of-life wishes of patients in oncology palliative care: a qualitative study
contributor: judith pare the universality of death is a widely accepted phenomenon that many nurses deal with on an almost daily basis. the world health organization (2005) has stressed the importa…
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it is important for the family members of someone who is facing the end of their life to respect their wishes and follow through with the requests of their loved one as much as is practical and possible
end of life — from making end-of-life decisions to facing grief after a death.
managing the last phase of life properly, i.e., taking care that a patient’s wishes are respected at the end of life and beyond, is very important and can relieve the patient and his or her family of unnecessary burdens. this review is based on ...
the 3 wishes program (3wp) is a palliative care initiative in which clinicians elicit and implement final wishes for patients who are unfortunately imminently dying.
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the purpose of dying wishes can be multifactorial, from personal to including others, mainly those deemed important to the dying person. the request for a dying wish signifies that the patient is aware of their impending death and, therefore, open and honest conversations often follow. when achieved, dying wishes serve to pacify the dying person and, therefore, have a positive impact on how people think and feel about their life, and how they die.
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objectives to describe communication regarding cancer patient’s end-of-life (eol) wishes by physicians and family caregivers. methods an online questionnaire and telephone-based surveys were performed with physicians and family caregivers respectively in three teaching hospitals in colombia which had been involved in the eol care of cancer patients. results for 138 deceased patients we obtained responses from physicians and family caregivers. in 32 % physicians reported they spoke to the caregiver and in 17 % with the patient regarding eol decisions. in most cases lacking a conversation, physicians indicated the treatment option was “clearly the best for the patient” or that it was “not necessary to discuss treatment with the patient”. twenty-six percent of the caregivers indicated that someone from the medical team spoke with the patient about treatment, and in 67% who had a conversation, caregivers felt that the provided information was unclear or incomplete. physicians and family caregivers were aware if the patient had any advance care directive in 6% and 26% of cases, respectively, with low absolute agreement (34%). conclusions there is a lack of open conversation regarding eol in patients with advanced cancer with their physicians and family caregivers in colombia. communication strategies are urgently needed.
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end of life care should help you to live as well as possible until you die, and to die with dignity. the people providing your care should ask you about your wishes and preferences and work with you to plan your care.
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advocating for your end-of-life wishes is one of the most important ways to ensure that your values and preferences are honored at the end of your life. while the topic may feel difficult to approach, taking proactive steps can bring peace of mind to you and your loved ones. here’s how you can get started: […]
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although talking about hospice and end-of life options may feel uncomfortable, it is vital to have this important conversation with your loved ones. when you know their preferences for medical intervention and where they want to be when they die, you can ensure that their wishes are met. discuss options early most americans want to...
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